Lembing Feast

Last school break on the 3rd and 4th December 2015, we had the opportunity to invite Pak Ngah Izahar to Kelantan to conduct a course on the Seni Lembing.

The main aim was to gather the Anak Gayong Bachok who are still in touch although majority of us were not that active. It can be considered as a mini reunion to us.

In order to summon the members who have a lot of commitment to come and sit together, we have to frame a convincing bait to them. And the seni lembing course was one of the initiative.

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Alhamdulillah, although Pak Ngah was not as fit as he was years back, he was still manage to visit us here in Bachok. Credit also to Cikgu Zinan who has to take leave in order to teach us under guidance of Pak Ngah.

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to Him we shall return

SEMC 3MP DSC Friday, 3rd Ramadhan 1434 @ 12th July 2013

الذين اذا اصابتهم مصيبة قالوا انا لله وانا اليه راجعون

“Who, when a misfortune overtakes them, say:

‘Surely we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return‘.”.

Allah plans perfectly and knows the best.

Routine @ Kg Dusun Durian

I had the chance to join the training at Kg Dusun Durian, Kelantan last week. Despite the training was on Monday night, I was able to make it as I had the Maulidurrasul and Thaipussam break back in Johor.

The elders watching from the side

It was a chill training whereby not many turned up as some were beaten to death during the SUKMA selection competition. Anyway, congratulation to all who have made the team a great opponent. The bronze medals were not bad at all for the first timers after leaving the field for so many years. We’ll make a comeback in the years to come insyaallah.. huhuhu

Allahumma baariklana fiima razaktana

This was actually what happen during after the training. It was indeed a delicious way to end our training with Curry Noodles of course, the Ciksu’s recepi. Jazakallahu khairan kathira.. huhuhu

Dove

I am not really sure of the effectiveness of . Some says that giving the pigeon meat to a pregnant woman might boast the baby’s intelligent. Some says that it is a symbol of sincerity as pigeon is among the animal that does not change partners. They are very loyal to their partner. Hopefully, by consuming a pair of dove (white pigeon), with the permission of the God, the mother will give a birth to a servant who are sincere in giving total submission to God. Because of these, it is my family’s tradition to put pigeon meat as one of the menus during the pregnancy.

My father told us that one of our relatives, Ayah Su or better known as Pok Su Wi (Allahyaham- Al Fatihah), told him to get some pigeons for my mother during her pregnancy. Realising that it is one of the initiative to get good children, my father started to rear pigeons in great number. This enable him to get the meat whenever he wants to. As a result, somehow all of my siblings including me have some part of the pigeon in our blood.. huhuhu

The procedure continues when I become a father. Giving dove to my pregnant wife is also a must. Thanks to my father in law for getting the pigeon first before I knew it. However, that does not stop me from getting more dove for my wife. Giving more would be better, I guess. huhuhu

I went for a survey looking for a pair of dove. I found out that there were variety types of pigeon. The price can reach half a thousand ringgit. The price of a pure ordinary white pigeon (dove) around KB is about RM 3o. I was lucky to find a dealer who sells them half the price. On the day before I went to buy the pigeon, my father bought two ketitir (zebra dove). The next day, after making the cage, my brothers and I bought a number of white and dark pigeon, a pair of tekukur jawa (streptopelia), and two pairs of budgie. huhuhu.

Preparing the 5 stars cage.

The cage is ready with the nests inside. huhuhu

We slaughtered some of the pigeon for the meat and keep the others. All the family members, not only the pregnant one were able to taste the meat. Alhamdulillah. The day before my wife went to her work place, my father slaughtered all the pigoen except just a pair which has potential to breed. huhuhu

More reading on dove during pregnancy at Cikgu Hakim’s.

16th week

Alhamdulillah. In a mysterious yet amazing way, God has made the being in my wife’s tummy growth. At first the process of the main organ of the baby has made my wife a bit shaky and unstable. After quite a number of weeks, the condition is getting better. The tummy is starting to become bigger and harder, perhaps it is designed that way to protect the baby from the impact that comes from outside.

God’s creation is very amazing. each cell of the baby is duplicating as the time goes, whether we aware or not. The soul (ruh) was not there yet at the beginning. On about 120 days of pregnancy, the clean soul is whispered into the body. Subhanallah… According to my wife, she consciously realised the movement of the baby on the 14th week of the pregnancy. Masyaallah..

Entering the 17th week.. Can’t explain the excitement when I saw the baby being ultra-sounded. huhuhu

The whole process is being narrated by Datu Sanggul from Tanah Banjar (Kalimantan) on the 18th of Masihi. Part of the Syair Saraba Ampat is quoted:

5.Nur Muhammad bermula nyata
Asal jadi alam semesta
Saumpama api dengan panasnya
Itulah Muhammad dengan Tuhannya.

6.Api dan banyu tanah dan hawa
Itulah dia alam dunia
Menjadi awak barupa rupa
Tulang sungsum daging dan darah

7.Manusia lahir ke alam insan
Di alam Ajsam ampat bakawan
Si Tubaniah dan Tambuniyah
Uriah lawan Si Camariah

8.Rasa dan Akal, Daya dan Nafsu
Di dalam raga nyata basatu
Aku meliputi segala liku
Matan hujung rambut ka ujung kuku

9.Tubuh dan Hati, Nyawa – Rahasia
Satu yang zhohir amat nyatanya
Tiga yang batin pasti adanya
Alam Shoghir itu sabutnya

10.Mani-Manikam-Madi dan Madzi
Titis manitis jadi manjadi
Si Anak Adam balaksa kati
Hanya tahu Allahu Rabbi

11.Ka-ampat ampatnya kada tapisah
Datang dan bulik kepada Allah
Asalnya awak dari pada tanah
Asalpun tanah sudah disyarah

* Banyu = air, Awak barupa-rupa = tubuh yang bermacam bentuk/rupa, Di Alam Ajsam ampat bakawan = di perut ibu sudah berbentuk manusia dan bersama dengan empat kejadian yang lain, Tubaniah = air ketuban, Tambuniah = tembuni, Uriyah = ari-ari/uri, Camariah = darah yang mengiringi kelahiran anak, Basatu = bersatu, Segala liku = segala ruang, Matan = dari, Sabutnya = namanya, Balaksa kati = angka yang tak terbatas, Laksa = 10 000, Kati = 100 000, Kada Tapisah = tidak terpisah, Sudah disyarah = sudah dijelaskan.

The remaining syair can be found everywhere on the net.. Wallahua’lam

This morning, when we were having the dua’ after subuh prayer together, the baby is moving three times. Perhaps the baby wants to pray to the God as well. Allahuakbar.

Happy Wedding Anniversary

Thank God it is school holiday during this time every year. As a teacher, I will usually be at home with my parents especially on 11th of December for obvious reason, it is our parents’ wedding anniversary! Although it might not be any celebration or just the overdue ones, for me, being close to them is already something to cheer. This is because all of us work or study far away from home.

Hj Lazim’s legacy, more to come

  1. Alhamdulillah, we are thankful that God has still blessed them with health and strength. They are able to do the chores, and can even further, help their children who are in need.
  2. Alhamdulillah, we are thankful that God has given us with such wonderful parents, who are able to nurture us to be better beings.
  3. Alhamdulillah, God has given our parents with such a fantastic children who are able to colour their life.
  4. Alhamdulillah on everything at every moment for all the graces.

Thank you Allah, thank you Maa and Abah.

Happy 31st Anniversary

The Kelantanese Wedding

These are some of the processes that I have encountered during my wedding. Although the word wedding seems simple, it actually contains quite some lengthy process which follows the needs of Islam as well as Malay custom, and in my case it is narrowed to the Kelantanese culture.

At first, I did question about the needs to follow all the rigid rules and customs as for me, the procedure is just for the ‘Akad Nikah’ and that’s it. All others was considered as extra burden. However, that was just an old me. Now, after undergone some part of the process, I realise that there is an enormous agenda behind all these customs, which is to make my wedding life better.

Merisik (Inquiry)

This is the first formal step in getting marriage. Before the process takes place, the parents and family members from both sides have already had a general idea about what is expected from the person from the other side.

Che Nor dirasuk dirisik

Before the actual meeting takes place, they usually have asked people around, used spy, done some investigations or maybe asking the person herself in order to get answers to some basic questions about the person and her family. The questions may centered on the four basic things suggested by the Prophet (SAW) “A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman [otherwise] you will be a loser”.

In my case, we have done some funny investigations as well. After getting agreement from my parents and closest relatives, we move on to the merisik (formal inquiry) stage. The merisik is a meeting whereby we went to my spouse’s place (not yet at the moment) and indirectly asked whether the girl is available or not. That was the moment when I had the first glance on my wife.

The  meeting also means that I was able to contact her (within the limit of the religion, haram things before is still haram after the merisik stage) in order to know her better and if she meets the criteria, to discuss the preparation for the next stage.

Bertunang (Engagement)

Engagement is the stage where both parties are really commit to the marriage. There should be no U-turn after the engagement unless there is really big war without any solution happens. To be play safe, the news on engagement should not be public as it would give a shame to both parties especially the girl’s side if it is ended up with a break up.

The engagement ceremony

My engagement was quite unique as the duration of my engagement was only about two hours. Everyone was eager to get me married I guess. huhuhu

We bring along with us 7 things (pahar) as gifts to my spouse and  her family. It can be any number as long as it is an odd number. Some of  the compulsory item needed in the 7 pahars are sireh leaves where the ring is put, the yellow glutinous rice paired with egg (pulut kuning and bunga telur), some cloth, some fruits, some food (usually cake) and last but not least a book (usually Al Quran). All the gifts are a complete things needed in one’s life. Each symbolises important things that is needed to have a prosperity life.

The  spouse  will reply about the same (equal) things given from her side. The number will be the same or have two extra to number of pahars that they get. It depends on the agreement from both parties. I always crave for a weapon (i.e. keris) put on my pahar but all oppose my suggestion. Poor me.. huhuhu

Akad Nikah (Marriage Contract)

The marriage contract is the real deal. This is usually the stage which make the bridegroom shaking the whole body, freezing under the room temperature or perhaps suddenly becomes a stammer. Shaking hands with the religious officer  or the wali (guardian) himself and utter one single sentence has become the heaviest things to do.

Alhamdullilah mine was an OK session. Thanks to my seniors for sharing the tips to counter the difficulties. huhuhu. For those who has not shaken hands with the imam yet, you can ask me about the tips. The fee is just a whole grilled chicken. Sate will do. huhuhu

Reading the contract is among the most scary part in a man’s life.

There is also Mas Kahwin (sum of money or anything (i.e. Al Quran, gold) as a gift to the bride) that the bridegroom needs to give. The quotation price is up to the bride to decide. There is usually a range of standard price given based on the trend around the place.

However there is also a trend in which the bride does not put any specific price for the gift. It is up to the bridegroom to decide. If the money is not used for the wedding ceremony. It is suggested that the gift is given in Gold Dinar or maybe properties with high probability to rise in the future.

The different that is seen in the Kelantanese wedding and other states in Malaysia from my point of view is that the Kelantanese does not have the additional allocation for the ‘wang hantaran @ wang hangus’ (or burned money). The burned money is paid prior to the wedding to the bridegroom as the down payment that is usually used for the wedding ceremony for the bride’s side. The sum is usually a lot higher than the Mas Kahwin.

Berkahwin (Wedding Ceremony)

This is the time when the family celebrate the happiness and announce that their daughter has already got a husband. The family would be the organiser for the ceremony. It started with the family inviting the guesses. The guess should carefully listen to the invitation or look at the invitation card because there is a hidden message between the lines mentioned by the host, whether it is a gratitude ceremony (kenduri kesyukuran) or the wedding ceremony (kenduri perkahwinan). huhuhu

The feast time during the wedding ceremony

If it is just a gratitude ceremony, the guesses can just come to the ceremony and enjoy the meal. They might also want to bring along a gift or alms to the couple such as giving simple things as simple as a kilogram of sugar. Giving money to the host is considered as rude perhaps because the host believes that they are serving some food to the guesses as a gratitude to God and only God can indirectly repay it, in term of happiness, health and etc.

For the invitation which is stated as  a wedding ceremony, the guess is allowed to give present or money to the host as the alms. Maybe it is to lessen the burden of the couple when they live together in a new house or place.

On the day, the bridegroom and his contingent would march along with the pahars. There would be two additional pahars compared to the day of engagement. It usually contains about the same things as the engagement that, only that there were no sireh leaves given anymore. My contingent that came on that day was extraordinary. I mean the numbers. Thanks for the support. huhuhu

Menyambut Menantu (Receiving the daughter in law)

Then, the bride is delivered to the bridegroom’s family house. Another wedding ceremony is usually held as to inform the relatives especially the distance relatives of the bridegroom’s side that the person is already wed. If the the host has enough force and strength in term of  people come to help to set up everything, then the host can think of cooking the meal from the scratch. But if not, paying the catering service is preferred.

Some of the relatives that came

The is also an unwritten rules whereby the bridegroom cannot go to the bride family’s house before she is officially sent to the house during the menyambut menantu ceremony. It is one of the extreme case scenario. The linear rule would be that the bridegroom can go to the bride family’s house but she cannot stay there too long or sleep at the house.

Menghantar Menantu (Sending the daughter in law)

Another new thing that I have learned when I got married was that my wife is not allowed to go to her parents’ house until my parents send her. Perhaps this custom is rarely practiced because of some hindrances such as geographical and time challenges.

The direct purpose that I can see in the procedure is that it can tighten the newly tied bond between the two families namely mine and my wife’s family. It has been at least six meeting since the first merisik ceremony. The intimacy should already sprout a bit if not much between our two big families. The good relation between the families is also crucial in building a sound family of mine. huhuhu

Ziarah Waris

After the ceremony, the newly wed couple would probably hear the sentence sounds like ‘Ajok la Paih/Na gi jale kenal rumoh’ (Invite your spouse to our house) uttered by the close relatives. They would usually serve the couple with heavy meal and give some gifts as presents.

Nasir was smiling while glaring at the food at one of the relatives’ house. huhuhu

Based on my experience, as we had limited time at home before we departed to our work place, we went to nearly 10 houses in less than half a day. Only God can repay their kindness. There is nothing that I can compare for having such caring relatives around me. Alhamdulillah

I felt blessed because everything runs smoothly. Hopefully it is a good sign from God who has planned all the events for me. The whole process is now complete. It is now the time to explore the depth of understanding and patience with each other, with the strength of the mahabbah and rahmah thrown by the Creator to the heart of both of us, as husband and wife, and the big families that we have.

**Footnote

  1. It should be noted that the customs are not compulsory to be followed.
  2. If it becomes a burden especially the financial burden to a person, the simplest akad nikah is more than enough.
  3. Physical contact and relation (or something towards that)  before marriage for any reason (i.e. postponing the wedding because of financial burden) should be avoided. Parents should aware that the customs can hold but some evils for postponing the wedding can’t. It can only be stopped by marriage.
  4. The entry post might be just my syok sendiri perspective. Any correction or additional information is most welcome. huhuhu. Wallahua’lam.

Doktor Muda Club

Found this somewhere on the net for quite some time but totally forgot to share this joyous news. My cousin, Izzah, was able to get the first place in the one of the categories in Doctor Muda Club Convention National level. We are really proud of her.

SK Tawang Bachok Kelantan telah menjadi Johan dalam Pertandingan Inovasi di Konvensyen Dr Muda di Bayan Lepas pada 6 Jul 2011… Tahniah..

Nabila, Sanim and IZZAH

Last school break we had a chance to interview her on her success. She told us that her team, with the help of the teachers have invented an air freshener with three functions! Firstly, as the air freshener. Secondly, as mosquito chaser or repeller. Thirdly, it functions as a decoration. It is really amazing to see how these primary school students were able to invent such a brilliant idea.

As the product is still new, maybe sharing the technology to the public is not a good idea. Please contact them directly if you are interested with the product. They definitely need to commercialise their product. huhuhu.

Kota Tinggi, epecially Taman Kota Jaya, the place where I live, is a blacklist area for the dengue decease. Having one air purifier that they have designed might raise the the life quality and health of the residences.

My students also went to national level but they only get the valuable experience there. huhuhu. We’ll try our best again next year, Insyaallah. huhuhu

Football is coming home

After more than 7 years, we will unite again. I am coming home.

Regards,

Hafzan Lazim

Pre-Honeymoon

Of our pre-honeymoon..

When- The very end of Rejab 1432

Where- The Cat City, the Kenyalang earth

At Kuching Waterfront

The real honeymoon is to come, insyaalah. Any interesting place that comes in mind? Feel free to share.. huhuhu

Selamat Hari Ibu, Maa!

Ibnulazim’s shouting out our deep appreciation towards moms in the whole wide world, especially to our beautiful Maa!

May Allah shower you with His abundant blessings

3rd 2nd 1st

It feels like yesterday..

When I stopped at Pekan Hospital to see my sister get birth of my first nephew. However, as expected he was a shy boy as he didn’t want to get out of the comfort zone that he was in. After waited for some time, things didn’t change and I have to get move or I’ll be late to my journey back to my college.I have to wait a few weeks before I can see the boy. huhu

The second one was not as thrill as the first one. We were in our europe trip when Hail the Second came out to the world. I was in Austria when I got the news for this blog. The entry was updated from time to time to give the current news of the happening. Thanks to the reporter. huhuhu

The third one was last year during school holiday. I was busy with the silat stuff as Pak Ngah made a visit to Kelantan to share his wisdom with us. And alhamdulillah Kak Atie had successfully given a birth to a Mek Klate. huhuhu. The coolest and toughest among the siblings.

3rd 2nd 1st

When I took the picture yesterday, I was thinking they sure change a lot compared to the first time I looked at them. Hopefully, their uncle is changing towards good as time goes as well.

Ilmu Keibubapaan II

Parents would do everything to make sure that their children success in their life. The way they carry out the mission depends on their experience, knowledge and examples around them.

We had a replacement class yesterday for the Deepavali celebration on October. That means lesson is on even it is on sleepy Saturday. Yeay!! However, for the teachers who are teaching the Year 6 students, they need to participate in the postmortem for the first examination that the students had undergone.

The parents were invited to attend the program, as they need to have a clear picture on how their children performed in the previous exam. The parents first listened to the postmortem presentation presented by the headmaster.

Next, a motivation talk is given to the teachers and parents. It touched on the parenting skills that parents need to have in order to produce human being with quality not absurdity. Basically, it was about the four aspects of what have been stressed in the National philosophy of education which are:

  1. Physical aspect- Give quality food for them in schedule. For instance: According to the presenter, 70%of parents do not give breakfast for their child before they go to school. This is not good for the children’s body and brain in order to cope with the lessons at school. Also, parents need to take care of the health of the students. Exercise and sport is part of it.
  2. Emotional aspect- Positive reinforcement is vital. i.e. Some parents tend to only criticise children when they do wrong things while parents say nothing when they behave well or even worst being sarcasm to them. Children who lack love would believe that attention will only be given if they do something wrong. So, start praising the children if they do something good and ignore the attention seeker. huhuhu
  3. Spiritual aspect- It starts with the parents. Example shown by the parents affects how children perceive their God and religion. The religious ritual practice training should start as early as possible.
  4. Intellectual aspect- Leave a major part of this to teachers at school to pour information necessary to their brain. Of course support from parents is crucial. However, learning is not only come from the classroom but also at field, home, supermarket, mosque and many more. huhuhu

Face to face, heart to heart session between the parents and teachers

Lastly, parents had a chance to meet the class and subject teachers that teach their children. I was part of the teachers who need to consult the parents about their children.. huhuhu.. This session reminds me of my parents who have made us who we are today. God has enlighten them with a very little bit of His Rahman, Rahim, and other characters (0f His names). The result is tremendous, beyond my expectation. Subhanallah, Alhamdulillah, Allahuakbar. Thank you Allah. Thank you Maa and Abah. huhuhu

Entering A New Phase of Life

Especially for those who are moving towards the new phase of life.

Isn’t it sweet? huhuhu

The Garden of Wisdom

Found the photo on FB, where a friend of mine tagged almost all of us in the picture. It an old picture of the SMU (A) Maahad Muhammadi Lilbanin. It indeed brings back memories, the black and white and other colours as well.

2002, when I was in form 4. The year alone reminds me of the SMU exam and the ‘less one’ factor. Also the construction of a new building behind the older one. Also the fun way of learning Balaghah. Also the Mukhayyam Gayong with explosions. Also last minute study. Also the weird poem for Adab and Nusus. Also the establishment of the consumer club. Also honeymoon for the SPM subjects. Also the introduction for the science stream subjects. Also the playing truant in the secret rooms. Also the mat scoot and mat kecap life. Also the silat teaching at other schools. Also remembering periodical table for Sorof and Nahu! Also the tuition life. Also the understanding mudir. And many more.. huhuhu..

Not to forget our Nashidussobah during our tobor (assembly):

نشيد الصباح

يا الَهي يا الَهي يا مُجيبَ الدعوات
اجعل اليوم سعيدا وكثيرالبركات
واملاء الصدر إنشراحا وفم بالبسمات
واعني في دروسي واداء الواجبات
وانرعقلي وقلبي بالعلوم النافعات
اجعل التوفيق حظي ونصيبي في الحياة
واحمني واحمي بلادي من شرورالحادثات
واملاء الدنيا سلاما شاملا كل الجهات
يا الَهي يا الَهي واستجب كل صلاتي

MML dalam kenangan:

Namamu masyhur bumimu penuh barakah,
Rancak mendidik dan juga memasakkan tarbiyyah,
MML , sekalung terima kasih dan tahniah,
Teruskan mendidik dan melahirkan pemimpin Ummah.

credit to Afif Rabbani for the pic and poem

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