One day, Tok Gajah was together with Tok Ku Paloh. Tok Ku Paloh was holding a sugar cane stick when he asked Tok Gajah to get it from his hand. Tok Gajah immediately tried to grab it from Tok Ku Paloh. Later, the sugar cane was crushed.
Then, Tok Ku Paloh made a jest, “These are the people who use strength (ilmu gagah), the sugar cane was all crushed and cannot be eaten anymore”. “Wasn’t it better if you asked from me politely? Surely I would give it to you”
Where could I learn this kind of soft skills? Knowing the right thing to do to the right person, to the right extent, at the right time.